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“10 pieces of advice to give yourself at the age of 20”
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At the age of 11, you learned that perfection does not always mean a flat tummy and a thigh gap. Go on and eat that second piece of cookie that you crave so much.
At the age of 12, you learned that just because you call her “mom” and him as “dad,” it doesn’t mean they inherently know how to be that. Also, suicide poison is not the cure for everything, it’s not a cure at all.
At the age of 13, you learned the difference between giving up and taking a rest. You might have given it your all but not make it. Remember to disregard everything that comes after but.
At the age of 14, you learned that standing up for everyone else does not mean that all of them will stand up for you when you need someone. Not one of them would be the first one to defend you, that spot is reserved for your name.
At the age of 15, you learned that people rarely mean what they say even if as a writer, you deem each and every word important. Learn to know the voices that speak sincerity and the voices that are just trying to get into your pants.
At the age of 16, you learned that letting go of people that only brings toxicity in your life is never a crime. Thinking about your own peace of mind does not make you selfish. Neither does placing yourself above that last number on your priority list.
At the age of 17,you learned that giving yourself to everyone willing could only lead to one thing: your own’s deterioration. Dear, you are more precious than someone who can’t even look into your eyes in the morning.
At the age of 18, you learned that loving and accepting yourself are two different things. Placing yourself in situations you are well aware of your self distraction is never loving yourself.
At the age of 19, you learned that lovers are not the only ones that can break your heart. People stay and go for a reason. Remember to treasure the rightful ones that life allowed to stay.
You’re 20 nowand life has never been what you expected and planned it to be and that’s possibly the greatest thing that can happen into your life. You’re a writer but life writes with you, know when to let it leave significant marks and know when your own pen should be the one doing so.
Anonymous asked: Do you have any advice for men regarding emotional intelligence? I'm an African American male, and was raised on physical and verbal abuse. Never really talked about feelings, am just now learning to think about why I feel the way I do in reaction to things. Just wondering where to go from here in order to move forward....
There is a book called Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Coleman and another called Emotional Intelligence 2.0 by Travis Bradbury and Jean Greaves. Read them.
I think a lot of emotional intelligence comes from reflecting on the emotions you’re having and assessing why you’re having them and whether they are rational for the situation. Some emotions are justified, if someone wrongs you you have a right to be upset. But emotional intelligence would help you gauge your reactive feelings, assess whether your feelings and reaction are within reason, and then decide how to deal with your feelings. Ideally you channel your negative feelings into something positive, like going to exercise while you’re mad and sweat it out in the gym as opposed to doing something you might regret.
Three years ago, all the signs pointed one way: Tinashe was on her way to pop stardom.
In 2012, when she was just 19, she produced two critically acclaimed mixtapes that landed her a deal at RCA. A year later her debut single, “2 On,” made it to No. 24 on Billboard’s Hot 100. Her 2014 debut album, “Aquarius,” was met with critical acclaim and she was nominated for a BET Award.
Since then, the singer-songwriter has toured with Nicki Minaj and Katy Perry, collaborated with Britney Spears, earned praise from idol Janet Jackson and issued two buzzy projects, including last year’s digital-only work “Nightride.”
Yet Tinashe’s career has hit an impasse.
Nearly two years after it was announced to much hype, RCA has yet to release her long-gestating sophomore album, “Joyride.” As a string of genre-hopping singles and collaborations with artists like Spears, Chris Brown and Young Thug failed to produce a major hit, “Joyride” and her young career have stalled.
Attempting a restart, she has learned many things: that pop hits speak louder than reviews, only crossover stars make real money and being a black female performer comes with inherent challenges.
“Critical acclaim hasn’t been enough in my experience,” said the 24-year-old, who was born Tinashe Kachingwe. “The label appreciates it, but the music business, in my perspective, is still so much based on revenue and how much they are making in sales. That’s where it gets really [crappy].”
“You just want to make art for the sake of art,” she continued, “and not have people [care] about a number, first-week sales or things like that.”
If not, have a glass of water.
Have you eaten in the past three hours?
If not, get some food — something with protein, not just simple carbs. Perhaps some nuts or hummus?
Have you showered in the past day?
If not, take a shower right now.
Have you stretched your legs in the past day?
If not, do so right now. If you don’t have the energy for a run or trip to the gym, just walk around the block, then keep walking as long as you please. If the weather’s crap, drive to a big box store (e.g. Target) and go on a brisk walk through the aisles you normally skip.
Have you said something nice to someone in the past day?
Do so, whether online or in person. Make it genuine; wait until you see something really wonderful about someone, and tell them about it.
Have you moved your body to music in the past day?
If not, jog for the length of an EDM song at your favorite tempo, or just dance around the room for the length of an upbeat song.
Have you cuddled a living being in the past two days?
If not, do so. Don’t be afraid to ask for hugs from friends or friends’ pets. Most of them will enjoy the cuddles too; you’re not imposing on them.
Have you seen a therapist in the past few days?
If not, hang on until your next therapy visit and talk through things then.
Have you changed any of your medications in the past couple of weeks, including skipped doses or a change in generic prescription brand?
That may be screwing with your head. Give things a few days, then talk to your doctor if it doesn’t settle down.
If daytime: are you dressed?
If not, put on clean clothes that aren’t
pajamas. Give yourself permission to wear something special, whether it’s a funny t-shirt or a pretty dress.
If nighttime: are you sleepy and fatigued but resisting going to sleep?
Put on pajamas, make yourself cozy in bed with a teddy bear and the sound of falling rain, and close your eyes for fifteen minutes — no electronic screens allowed. If you’re still awake after that, you can get up again; no pressure.
Do you feel ineffective?
Pause right now and get something small completed, whether it’s responding to an e-mail, loading up the dishwasher, or packing your gym bag for your next trip. Good job!
Do you feel unattractive?
Take a goddamn selfie. Your friends will remind you how great you look, and you’ll help fight society’s restrictions on what beauty can look like.
Do you feel paralyzed by indecision?
Give yourself ten minutes to sit back and figure out a game plan for the day. If a particular decision or problem is still being a roadblock, simply set it aside for now, and pick something else that seems
doable. Right now, the important part is to break through that stasis, even if it means doing something trivial.
Have you over-exerted yourself lately — physically, emotionally, socially, or intellectually?
That can take a toll that lingers for days. Give yourself a break in that area, whether it’s physical rest, taking time alone, or relaxing with some silly entertainment.
Have you waited a week?
Sometimes our perception of life is skewed, and we can’t even tell that we’re not thinking clearly, and there’s no obvious external cause. It happens. Keep yourself going for a full week, whatever it takes, and see if you still feel the same way then.
You’ve made it this far, and you will make it through. You are stronger than you think.
seeyoulateraleegatorr asked: Please don’t stop spreading news about Puerto Rico, people like you are the only people we can trust when it comes to news. I never knew it was this bad over there. The American media isn’t doing anything to spread this, and trump is lying and brainwashing like he always has. I’m sorry and if I find a way to help I will. I just want to make sure my help gets to the people who need it.
I’m being honest you guys. Puerto Rico before hurricane Maria has outstanding debt of over 93 million dollars. Maria DESTROYED homes, streets,hospitals, supermarkets, killed people and left us without water and electricity and safe facilities for patients.
PLEASE I’m not lying, I’m not exaggerating.
WE are American citizens. We are latinos, yes, but we ALL hold citizenship. This is an USA American Territory. A territory that has continuously helped USA distribute goods, helped American economy, contributes to American economy and provides most of military enlists.
It’s bad. The American news is telling you that USA government is providing aid and support but they are reselling donations from Americans, they are only distributing “help” in the metropolitan area and they are saying that at least 40% of the island is back to normal when we still don’t have electricity in 80% if our hospitals, supermarkets have no food and there’s still no clean and running water for people out side the metropolis area. The USA military has removed refugees and sheltered people from our coliseum to make room for them selves and this is the news USA isn’t sharing with you guys.
You guys can choose to believe me or not but I’m here on the island and everyday I head up to the tourist area because it’s the only place my cellphone has signal and data I can use to communicate with people outside of the island.
I’m sharing this because it’s the truth.
I want to thank all those who have sent their best wishes to us and have sent donations. I know many of you cannot afford to help because many of you are struggling but those who can please open your hearts and help those in need.
Many blessings to you dear and please stay beautiful
Please, keep looking. Not for a person, but for your passion, your love, your courage, your goals, your dreams, your happiness, yourself. Keep looking. Explore yourself before you explore another. Know your worth, know yourself. Only then will you know what you need over what you want. You need yourself to become your own.
